Time for Change? Recognising the Signs

By Ambila Nath. 

Knowing and wanting to change something can be a really scary and difficult thing to do. It is likely to bring up a lot of uncertainties, insecurities, and worries.

Most of us want change but are afraid of it. We spend time talking about our unhappy lives - careers, relationships, of being alone - but we have no idea how to move beyond it. We allow ourselves to get paralysed in our lives and just exist rather than live - all because we are resisting change!

The universe is constantly sending us signals that it is time to let go and move forward.

‘It’s better to see the signals when they are raindrops rather than waiting for them to become a tsunami’ - Ambila Nath

Learn how to be open to seeing these signals because whether you like it or not, it’s going to happen with or without your approval. It could be something small - your landlord has raised your rent, or big - end of a relationship, job loss, illness.

Here are some of the signs you need to know, so that you know when it’s time for change:

When you are miserable in your current situation

Life moves in a circle of constant change and situations, places, hobbies and people will come and go from your life. Be willing to let go of what is no longer serving you. As you grow and change, so do your passions and the people around you. So, accept this cycle and graciously let go when the time is right.

When you choose to be a victim

It’s definitely time for a change when you find yourself asking, ‘Why me?’ rather than ‘What’s next?’ Don’t become a victim to your own stories when life doesn’t turn out the way that you expected it to. Stop blaming others or some outside circumstances as the situation will not change - YOU need to!

You will only begin to attract new things into your life when you start to make positive choices and understand that you are greater than any current problem.

When you keep saying ‘no’ to new opportunities

The universe is trying to open you up and send you opportunities to help you. They may not be what you are looking for at first glance, but by keeping hold of your past you are only delaying the process and making life more miserable. Be open to letting go so that you can make room for welcoming in the new.

When you have forgotten that you have choices

Learn to recognise when enough is enough. Sometimes you have to stop hitting your head against a brick wall and move on. You don’t have to continue living in the drama just because it’s familiar.

Commit to making choices that nurture you and your personal growth. Give yourself permission to let go and move on. Love yourself enough to choose happiness rather than anything that sucks it out of your life.

When you are living in the past to escape the present

Really be honest with yourself and ask yourself why you are afraid of the present. What is it that you think will happen to you? Face your fears head-on and answer these questions, then look at what steps you need to take to create a more positive situation.

When you have forgotten that you deserve the best

Your self-worth will never grow when you are constantly surrounded by negativity - people, situations, environment. You deserve to be appreciated and valued. Find people who have a positive attitude and who encourage you to follow your path towards greater success and happiness, helping you to create your dreams.

When you let small things become bigger

Stop focusing on the niggly everyday things that get you down. You are free to choose what you focus on and feel. Take control and change the older patterns of being. Each day, practice releasing something that you normally would find annoying. You’ll gain more happiness and inner peace.

When you can’t wait for the weekend

If you’re saving all your living for the weekends then think about your lifestyle and consider making some changes. Spending 5 days living in frustration and misery and putting all your energy and expectations on to the 2 days of the weekend, can be really exhausting and soul- destroying.

Start living in the weekdays as well, rather than saving everything for the weekend, by planning things you will enjoy doing into your diary.

When you are not focusing on your priorities

Do you know what your top priorities are? Write down the 3 things where you focus most of your life at the present moment. Now compare them. What is it that you are doing in comparison to what you need/want to be doing? If you’re not focusing on the life that you want to create, then it could be time to make some changes.

When you sugar-coat how wonderful your life is

To avoid change, we can constantly keep telling ourselves, and other people, just how wonderful everything is and that everything is just great. It takes far more energy to keep up a pretence than it does to just let go, face the reality, and embrace change.

When you think the grass is greener on the other side

If you find yourself constantly looking at someone else’s life and feeling that they have it all, ask yourself why you want what the other person has. Living a life on your terms, focused on your priorities, passions, and strengths, will provide you with a much happier life than trying to be like somebody else.

Change does not need to be scary as long as you are taking one step every day and just moving forward.

Ambila Nath is a Spiritual lifestyle coach, serial entrepreneur, tarot reader, energy healer and a paid international speaker. She has worked with clients for over 2 decades helping them to build the life that they deserve by finding their life path, gaining self-confidence to just be themselves, starting successful businesses and trusting in love again.

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