IN THE SPOTLIGHT WITH SAMI WUNDER

 

Sami Wunder is an international-level dating and relationship expert, wife and mother. As head of her seven-figure business, she helps powerful, high-achieving women attract their dream partner and create profoundly intimate and connected relationships. Hailed as the “Get The Ring Coach” by the BBC Radio London and the Daily Mail, and her work has been picked up by the Time Magazine, Forbes Magazine and many other publications of global renown.  

Sami has an inspiring story of career transition, from being a trained Economist working in the international development sector, to becoming a love coach. She has a Master degree in Public Policy from Germany’s top university and is a gold medalist in Economics, having received several accolades and scholarships from the US Department of State during her graduate career. 

Her core work philosophy is empowering ambitious women in their love lives who are looking to attract their soulmate, teaching high-value dating behaviours, feminine energy and the importance of dating with boundaries and an empowered diva mindset. Since 2016, over 180 of Sami’s clients have found soulmate love using the system of love attraction that she teaches. Such results are simply unheard of in the relationship coaching industry! Her services include online courses, group coaching programs, highly exclusive 1-2-1 coaching programs, and luxury retreats, I am thrilled that she has chosen to share her journey with us, over to you Sami... 

 

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SO, SAMI, WHAT’S YOUR STORY?

 

I’ve always been a woman with big dreams. Ever since I was a teenager, I used to think – ‘Why can’t women have it all? Both grand love and an amazing career. I’d like that for myself.’ And yet, as I grew up while mastering the career success part was easy for me as a Gold medallist Economist, the grand love part was a disaster.

When man after man, fizzled out on me, told me I was lovely but he wasn’t ‘feeling it,’ I knew something had to change in the way I was approaching men, love and romance. The final trigger for my personal transformation was when I thought I had met the one, but he ghosted on me after 2 months of intense dating. It was time to look inside, I remember telling myself. Long story short, I dived into the world of romantic relationships, taught myself the secrets to everlasting love and attracted and got engaged to the love of my life, my husband Chris, within 9 months of dating him.

On the career front, there was a parallel running story of my lack of satisfaction at serving as a trained Economist for International Development Organisations, and I knew there had to be more to life and job satisfaction. The two factors combined brought me to the field of love coaching. When my girlfriends turned to me for advice, I realised I had the gift of helping others master a field I had mastered myself. That I could pursue this professionally and get paid for it!

It was then, in 2016, that I got certified as a trained coach and started to teach my process around helping high achieving women, like myself, have the grand love they desire and deserve. Ever since then, there’s been no looking back. We became a 7 figure company in 2018, and today, we have over 4500 high-end customers from over 40 countries of the world. And most importantly, they’re getting results!

Currently, over 180 of my clients have gotten engaged to the love of their lives, and over 250 committed relationships have come through our programs.

 

YOU HELP WOMEN TO ACHIEVE LASTING ROMANTIC LOVE. WHAT DOES THAT MEAN TO YOU?

 

It means that Sami Wunder’s company is not here to help you just get a date or just get a person to be interested in you or have a clandestine, dull affair.

We’re about helping women attract lasting romantic love—the real deal. Your soulmate. The person you will walk into the sunset with—who will stand by you, through thick and thin. And for women in relationships, this means we help you with reigniting the spark with your soulmate and bring the connection back, that can sometimes be taken away by kids, responsibilities and life’s burdens.

 

YOU ARE HIGHLY SUCCESSFUL IN YOUR PROFESSION, WITH OVER 4500 CLIENTS WORLDWIDE AND 180 CLIENT ENGAGEMENTS UNDER YOUR BELT. WHAT QUALITIES DO THE WOMEN WHO WORK WITH YOU NEED TO POSSESS TO BE OPEN TO FINDING THE ROMANTIC LOVE THAT THEY CRAVE? 

 

They need to be ready to make a change. If you’re going to insist on dating the way you’ve always done it, you’re going to get the same results you’ve always got.

Next, they need an open mindset and a willingness to learn. Since I work with female CEOs, leaders, highly successful women, many times, they can have rigid mindsets and perspectives towards what they believe to be true about romantic partners and love. This will not work. To get results, you’ve got to be willing to be challenged and have an open mind, which is what all our successful clients have.

Finally, they need the ability to ask for help. I know that asking for help wasn’t easy for me, but if I had not been able to do it, nothing would have changed in my love life. Even today, while running a multi-7 figure company, I have coaches and mentors that guide me in areas I have not mastered. For example, we hired a sleep coach for children to help with sleep training for my son as I am not an expert at that, and I also hired a hypnotherapist for weight loss. In other words, there is no shame in asking for support in any area of your life that you haven’t yet mastered, your love life is one such area.

In fact, in my experience, it’s a brilliant thing to do, to ask for help as it helps you learn from the experts and saves you years of trial and error and heartbreak in relationships.

 

HOW DO YOU HANDLE CRITICISM?

 

I see where it’s coming from. Is it coming from a loving place? If yes, I am open to constructive feedback.

If it’s coming from a place where it feels demeaning, condescending or not rooted in love, I am not open for it. Full stop.

This is especially true in the online world, where everybody has an opinion on you, and it’s easy to hide behind computers and comment on people who are out there, being brave and doing the real job of showing up.

 

LOTS OF WOMEN, ESPECIALLY WOMEN IN THE BUSINESS ARENA TALK ABOUT FINDING IT DIFFICULT TO RELEASE CONTROL. DO YOU FIND A CORRELATION BETWEEN THAT AND ISSUES WITH DATING AND FINDING A ROMANTIC PARTNER?

 

Absolutely. The high achieving woman loves being in control. She loves being in the leading energy of deciding, planning, organising, doing. It’s what’s got her career success for the most part. Just that this is all masculine energy, control being the flag bearer of it, and when you bring this energy to your romantic relationships, it will not be your best friend. It will push away masculine, successful partners because they are attracted to feminine energy inside of you. It will also attract needy, entitled partners to you who expect you to do all the work and over-give to them. A lose-lose situation for you.

So yes, when you come to us, one of the first things you will learn with us is the power of leaning back in your feminine with a romantic partner, no matter how big of a #bossbabe you are.

And to stop all the over-giving and over-doing which are pushing away your current partner or the people you’re dating, without you even realising it.

 

YOU TALK ABOUT FINDING YOUR OWN LOVE WITH YOUR HUSBAND CHRIS, HOW DID THAT JOURNEY IN PARTICULAR INSPIRE THE WORK YOU DO NOW WITH THE WOMEN YOU SERVE?

 

Great question. When you Google for dating and relationship advice, you will come across many superficial strategies. For example, how to text a potential partner, how to seduce your date, how to be the ‘perfect’ girl. Most of this advice makes you feel worse and even more inadequate about yourself.

But if you dive beyond surface-level quick-fix advice, which is what I did, you will find that the health of our romantic relationships is the biggest mirror to the relationship we have with ourselves. When I started to work on this relationship with myself, everything started to shift for me. When I began treating myself as valuable, when I learnt to say no and have solid boundaries, when I took responsibility for not showing up in my masculine energy around men, my love life changed pretty rapidly.

Within a few months, I had high calibre men, vying for my time and attention, willing to give me the world. My husband was one of them.

I was so brave, I even rotational dated all the way to the ring, a concept I teach my clients and for which the BBC London hailed me as the ‘Get The Ring Coach.’ This experience with Chris and navigating my own love life, helped me build the process I teach my clients today.

  

YOU WORK A LOT WITH FEMININE ENERGY, HOW DOES THIS FUNDAMENTALLY UNDERPIN THE WORK YOU DO?   

 

Feminine energy embodiment is at the crux of all I teach. Unlike the usual stereotypes, feminine energy is not weak or door-matty. It is about showing up in your empowered energy as a WOMAN while embracing the innate feminine qualities that nature has already given you.

So surprisingly, as many women mistakingly believe, you don’t have to ‘change’ yourself to learn this. You just have to return more to what you were born as before you learnt to hustle and push and control.

When you come to us, we will help you start by being a softer, more relaxed, more inviting version of yourself. We will help you let your guard down and let others in. We will help you master vulnerability and high-value communication. We will help you embrace an effortless way to show up and shine your light and feel like a prize around partners who are a match for you! It can be a lot of fun to embark on this journey of embracing the woman inside you.

 

HOW HAS THE CURRENT GLOBAL CRISIS WITH COVID-19 AFFECTED YOUR BUSINESS AND THE WOMEN YOU SERVE? SOCIAL DISTANCING AND GOVERNMENT RESTRICTIONS HAS PUT PRESSURE ON NEW AND EMERGING RELATIONSHIPS, DO YOU HAVE ANY ADVICE FOR OUR READERS IF THIS APPLIES TO THEM?

 

The COVID19 crisis has not affected my company, and I am so grateful to be an online business. We recently had two multi-6 figure launches and attracted amazing clients from all over the world for our premium programs.

I believe the need for love and companionship has increased due to this crisis, not decreased. And my coaching services have never been more relevant than now.

Advice – If you’re single, please virtual date. Love is still blooming for our clients. If you’re in a relationship, don’t make your partner the centre of your world. Give space and have a life of your own, to keep the attraction going.

 

WHAT HAVE YOU FOUND DIFFICULT ON YOUR JOURNEY?    

 

So many things! Having the courage to tell my family, I was ditching my Masters in Economics and becoming a love coach. Dealing with online trolls and how unreasonable and personal they can be. Dealing with the fear of showing up and spreading my message, when all I wanted to do was curl into a ball and disappear sometimes.

Dealing with success, fame and visibility at a fast space, that nobody prepares you for emotionally.

 

WHAT’S YOUR TOP TIP FOR OUR AWESOME FEMALE ENTREPRENEURS READING THIS ARTICLE? 

 

Potential partners are not intimidated by your success and brains. They just don’t fall in love with you because of it. So let them see the real you, put that guard down and let yourself be seen, so that they may find you.

 

HOW WOULD YOUR HUSBAND DESCRIBE YOU?   

 

“She’s the love of my life!”

 

IF YOU COULD TELL THE WOMEN READING THIS ARTICLE ANYTHING TO GET THEM STARTED ON THEIR JOURNEY TO LOVE, WHAT WOULD IT BE?

 

That it’s possible to have both, amazing career success and a partner who adores you. You don’t have to choose between the two.

 

WHICH MOTIVATIONAL SONG WOULD YOU LIKE ME TO ADD TO OUR CEO RADIO PLAYLIST ON SPOTIFY FOR YOU?

 

Paradise – Cold Play

 

WHAT DO YOU KNOW FOR SURE?

 

That true love exists and it’s worth fighting for, working for and not giving up till you’ve found it.

 

DO YOU HAVE A BOOK OR FAVOURITE PODCAST RECOMMENDATION FOR OUR READERS?

 

I loved Soul Shaping by Jeff Brown.

 

WHAT MAKES YOU TRULY HAPPY?  

 

What makes me truly happy is to relish the love I experience with my husband and with my children. In my downtime, I love to chill with a bowl of popcorn and watch Bollywood films. I also enjoy taking a warm bath and reading a book!

 

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