The reading cove - retreat space blogs for the quiet mind. 

Stop. Breathe. Appreciate


5 SIMPLE STEPS TO TRANSFORM YOUR TRICKY RELATIONSHIPS

The relationships in our lives can make or break us on a daily basis. No matter the type of relationships they can be all consuming on so many levels. Particularly our most intimate relationships can bring both the worst and the best out in us. Why does it affect us so much?

Love and relationships nurture us on a deep level and so when we are rejected or emotionally neglected in some way we can start to feel unloved, unwanted or not enough. It can and usually is related to past triggers we experienced as we grew up especially in our intimate relationships and whilst we do not always recognise this, it is often the case and knowing the difference and healing our triggers can lift that weight off considerably


PLEASE STOP WEARING THESE THREE THINGS (AT ANY AGE)

I've learned so much from simplifying my closet and dressing with a small capsule wardrobe. While I've learned what best fits my body and my lifestyle, most of the lessons have nothing to do with clothing. Or, the lessons can be applied to clothes and life.

A simpler closet is the gateway to a simpler life.

I typically steer away from making recommendations on what you should wear, but feel strongly that none of us (at any age) need to wear these three things ever again.


THE SURPRISING EASY TRICKS THAT WILL HELP YOU TO CREATE A LONG LASTING SELF-CARE ROUTINE

When we talk about creating a self-care practice, it can sometimes seem too time consuming and can feel like we don’t have enough time in our day. When we do take time, we may find that the effects are temporary and are then left struggling the rest of the day.

The good news is that there are a number of things you can do to easily get started on your own self-care AND make the effects last all day, even in the midst of stress!


IF YOU CRAVE A SLOW QUIET HOLIDAY SEASON

If you crave a slow, quiet, holiday season, it's not too late, but you may have to do something that makes you uncomfortable. You are going to have to protect your free time, and create some white space on your calendar by saying no.

Saying no can be uncomfortable but only so many things can have your time and attention. Overextending yourself in the name of keeping everyone happy will leave you depleted, resentful and worse ... sick and tired.


The happy hazard of looking stupid

Ever been in a room full of people engaged in a discussion, everyone's nodding in agreement and you're like, what the fuck are they talking about?

Me too. Loads of times actually.

I finally decided enough was enough when I moved house to a super exciting river view apartment right next door to a contemporary art centre. Now, I like art and I loved being able to wander in, drink coffee and browse around the vast spaces of sometimes brilliant and sometimes way-over-my-head installations but after about a month or so I found myself doing the thing.

Standing in a room full of artsy-types and nodding.


Understanding your value

When it comes to our own personal value we can be our own best friend or our own worst enemy, but which are you? do you actually know what your value is?  

I am a strong believer that value is a personal responsibility, it comes from within. It’s at the very core of who you are as a person and something that isn’t determined by anyone else’s opinion or treatment of you (although it can feel that way). Knowing your value, or worth is an inner confidence that cannot be touched by anyone else. Period. 

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WHAT ARE YOU GRATEFUL FOR? 

When I first started to practise gratitude I actually found it quite stressful. Was i doing it right? Am I being imaginative enough? Was I really feeling it? Of course what I have since learned is that there is no right or wrong about it...


WHAT EVEN IS MINIMILISM

Ah Minimalism, picture perfect white walls, remote cabins in the woods, tiny houses, no furnishings and little comfort… what does the word conjure up for you? I used to think it was all of the above, maybe with the addition of an outside loo.. that was until I fell ill… 

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BUILDING YOUR HAPPINESS MUSCLE 

What even is happiness? Is it possible to live in a constant state of awe and possibility all-the-time? I don't know about you but that sounds bloody exhausting to me. If I was happy all the time how would I  enjoy it and appreciate it when it things were great? Turns out there are answers...


happy places 

We all have our happy places. For me, its the beach, the noise of the sea and the sand between my toes is the ultimate relaxation for my brain. Whenever I feel overwhelmed and under pressure, it's my go to place, the expanse of the ocean seems to make my problems seem somewhat smaller by comparison..

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