There are no mistakes
This week I was fortunate enough to be able to take a day out of my schedule and be at home (thanks to my car being out of action, funny how these things come at just the right time) and after a one to one coaching session in the morning I settled down to work on The Female CEO. Now usually as soon as I open the laptop my brain floods with ideas, I have to grab my notebook to keep them all in some sort of order and then make enough sense of them to put into a schedule, however, I found I was stuck.
My back hurt from my chair, I wanted more tea, I was hungry, I was thinking of everything except what I needed to do. Rather than get frustrated at my lack of clarity (been there before) I shut the laptop and turned on the TV. Now, this is where once upon a time I would have disappeared into a world of daytime TV and resurfaced at 4pm but not this time. Instead, I put on Youtube and the first thing that popped up was Oprah (I love Oprah). I randomly chose a video to watch and of course, it was exactly what I needed to hear. In the less than three minute video, she talks about the fact that there are no mistakes, no failures and no wrong paths. I was so blown away by the message that I sat down to write about it for this weeks she-mail. I have included the video for you and if you do nothing else today, please, take two minutes (literally) to yourself and watch it.
I find this subject so topical right now, I hear so often that the women I work with are terrified to either start something new or to make the next step in case they make a mistake or take the wrong path but the truth is, you cant. As Oprah says 'your life is bigger than any one experience'
It's also the time of year when the kids have gone back to school, the pressure is on for upcoming leavers to make decisions that have the potential to alter the course of their lives. It's tough for teenagers now, there are so many influences coming from all directions and I would say, If you have this issue at home, send them this email or just the youtube link. Encourage them not to worry, not to get overwhelmed, to listen to their own instincts and take action from there. I wish I'd had this kind of insight when I was 15, I've taken plenty of detours over the years from a place of fly-by-the-seat-of-your-pants panic.
So if you find yourself in fear, if you feel paralysed and not making any moves at all, remember that you can't get it wrong. The worst that will happen is that you'll learn a much needed lesson or two on the detour so relax and enjoy the journey.
You are on your way to your own supreme moment of destiny.