Remember, a setback is a bruise, not a tattoo

Ah, the good old setback. Indeed it happens to all of us at some point. Often just when you think you're on the right path, you've got a PLAN and a GOAL and HOW DARE YOU GIVE ME A SETBACK NOW WHEN I WAS ONLY JUST ABOUT THERE!!

Sound familiar?

Two things are important to remember. 1) Plans need to have a bit of give and take to them and 2) It's never personal.

Setbacks can alter the course of our day or our lives. They can be minor or major but they always have the potential to shake us up. The way to handle a setback when it happens is to focus on what you can control and go from there. By changing perspective to a place of inner power (not necessarily changing the actual circumstance) we can begin to see the positive and the way to overcome or work around whatever it may be.

Having a plan is awesome but you we have to be prepared for 'stuff' to happen. Your plan should ideally include your starting point and the end result as a minimum and then be prepared to weave around a bit in the middle. Be staying open and flexible while keeping the end in mind you remove some of the power a setback has over your life. You actually reduce its power by not buying into the misconception of perfection all of the time. By working this way you also alleviate some of the IMMENSE pressure you tend to put yourself under to have everything under control and ticking along perfectly. Right?

The second thing to remember is that it's not personal. You really cannot please everyone all of the time and if you did you'd likely be average at best. As soon as you make a wave, have an opinion or stand out from the crowd you're going to piss somebody off and that's really OK. Not everyone is buying but that doesn't mean it's not worth the effort it simply means its not for them. It can sting a bit, sure it may even cause you to re-evaluate your position and that's actually ok too as long as you're doing so based on your own thinking and staying true to YOUR values.

You didn't come this far to be a people pleaser, If you want to be unique, have something worth having and blaze your own trail well then you have to expect a detour or two along the way.

These are the bruises of the entrepreneur but they are certainly not tattoos.

 

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