If You Crave a Slow Quiet Holiday Season
By Courtney Carver - Be more with less
If you crave a slow, quiet, holiday season, it’s not too late, but you may have to do something that makes you uncomfortable. You are going to have to protect your free time, and create some white space on your calendar by saying no.
Saying no can be uncomfortable but only so many things can have your time and attention. Overextending yourself in the name of keeping everyone happy will leave you depleted, resentful and worse … sick and tired.
We’ve all said yes, when we wanted to say no. Whether we say it out of guilt, for fear of missing out, or out of habit, it’s important to note that saying yes, when your heart says no is a disservice not only to you, but to everyone you say yes to. If your heart says no, it will fight the yes all the way through. You won’t be excited to contribute. You won’t give your best, and you may end up resenting the commitment or the person who asked you to commit.
Sometimes we think we can’t say no to a request unless we have another obligation or a really good reason/excuse but that is simply not the case.
If the slow, quiet holiday season you crave includes watching the snow fall, a picnic on the beach, drinking tea and watching your favorite sappy movie, or taking a walk in the sunshine or through the twinkle lights, make time for it. Reclaim holiday magic by saying no without apology and if appropriate, without explanation. You get to decide what’s best for you.
Honour the no and the yes for a slow, quiet holiday season
When you have trouble resisting or saying no to everything that comes your way, remember how you feel when you say yes to too much. Then think about how you feel when you say yes to the right things, to what matters most to you. When you say yes to what you care about and what you love, it feels so good.
If you think that protecting time for what matters is selfish, remember how much more giving and loving you can be when you are healthy, rested, and engaged in your favorite things. It’s from that fulfilled place that you can give and serve in ways you just can’t when you are overwhelmed and exhausted.
Take back the white space, your free time, and your peace of mind. You are the only one who can create the slow, quiet holiday season (and life) you crave.
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About be more with less:
Be more with less is about simplifying your life and really living. Living with less creates time and space to discover what really matters. Through decluttering, and focusing on the best things instead of all the things, you can create a life with more savings and less no debt, more health and less stress, more space and less stuff, and more joy with less obligation.
Courtney kindly granted us permission to share her wonderful blog with The Female CEO community - Thank you so much Courtney. You can read more about her and her truly inspiring journey here.